Marriage Straight Talk

Building Something on Purpose

A marriage left on autopilot drifts, every time. These pages are for couples who want to decide on purpose what they are building together, then put the habits and commitments underneath it so it holds when life gets loud.

• Change Takes Commitment

  What coaching really asks of you: session count, pacing, and the work that happens on Tuesday when I am not in the room.

• How to Create a Unique Vision for Your Marriage

  The conversation that gets a couple out of survival mode and back onto a plan they both actually chose.

• 10 Foundations of a Happy Marriage

  The 10 things that actually hold a marriage up, why the order matters, and the three popular foundations that are not foundations at all.

• Invest in Your Relationship

  What investing in a relationship actually means when the currency is attention rather than money, why capable people defer it for years, and how the bill arrives.

• John Gottman and the Gottman Method

  An accurate account of Gottman's research, the Four Horsemen, bids and the magic ratio, plus where I do something different.

• Premarital Coaching for Engaged Couples

  The conversations engaged couples skip, what premarital coaching actually covers, and why the good ones book it while everything is still easy.

• The Key to a Strong Relationship

  Forget the list of keys. The one behavior that separates couples who hold from couples who quietly erode is repair, and almost nobody was taught how to do it.